I had a wobble with my body confidence. Not surprising to me, but perhaps to you? Let me explain what happened… I’ve been spending far too long on the phone to solicitors, trying to sort my mortgage… (boring adulting problems 🥱) and it was stressing me out. It’s an old age tactic that when I’m stressed or something big is going on, the inner critic will turn the pain inwards, rather than at the real problem. It’s familiar to attack my body and sometimes it takes intentional effort to re-direct it at the true problem.
You see, my body hadn’t changed, but the way I felt about it did. Do you find this?
If so, let me support you to quickly implement slight mindset changes for next time 👇
#1
The warning light ⚠️️
When the inner critic is overwhelming, think of it like the warning light on a car dashboard – a big signal that something’s happening. Just like driving, you pull over, lift up the bonnet and get curious – “what’s going on here to cause the warning light to be on?”. 🧐
When your inner critic is having a party, get curious… what else is happening in my life right now? Am I tired? Is there a difficult situation at work? Is there an uncomfortable conversation that needs to be had? There will be something happening that requires care.
#2
Choosing comfort over confidence is A-OK
It doesn’t mean you’ve failed if you choose the outfit that feels more comfortable. Body confidence or body neutrality (which my preference) is not linear and if a baggy t-shirt and leggings means you can be present with loved ones without the inner critic ruining your day, then that’s a win to me. 🏆
#3
Do not aim to love your body every day
That’s an unrealistic goal, imo. We’re humans, women with hormonal experiences, complex histories and a future that holds untold encounters. It would be more sensible to aim to not let our bodies dictate our lives and ruin our days. That’s a worthwhile and realistic goal. 🎯
Kirsty McKell 
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